By: Kylee Stef

Kylee Stef — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 22:35:41 +0000

Hey there, I had my first three children vaginally and naturally and it was great. Only I didn’t realize it was great until I had a c-section. My fourth was dying at 24 weeks of age, the placenta was bad and he wasn’t growing. They wanted a csection then…we went home instead. He grew and lived until 28 weeks, however, so we thought he really had a shot at life at that point. If he stayed inside me he would surely die. He grew weaker and I knew he was on his way out, so we agree to the csection at that point. The doctors said labor would kill him for sure because of the strain on the placenta. They also said there was no way around it being a classical c-section. No one ever told us the risks or any other option. My body was screaming that I did NOT want a c-section but I wanted my boy to live. We agreed but he died while they were sewing me up. The doctor peirced his trachea with the intubation tube. I never saw him alive. I never felt him leave. He was kicking inside me and them someone handed him to us dead. It was so surreal. Harder than dealing with his death, though, has been dealing with what happened to my body. I know it doesn’ seem like it should be that way but it’s much harder to deal with learning how to walk again for 4 weeks and, like you said, peeing with pain. It’s been 15 weeks for me and I still pee with pain. I have sex with pain. I was a runner and now I can’t run without severe abdominal pain. My stomach hasn’t digested properly since. I was a healthy 28 year old and I feel like I’m at least 40. On top of that the doctors now say I have to have a c-section because of my classical incision. We wanted 6 children and I told everyone that, but no one once told us the fight we would face post surgery. They are very concerned only with interfering at the moment. No one can tell me where all of the pain is coming from. No one cares now that the procedure is done. Women have vbac’d with a classical and an inverted “T” and been just fine. I will never have another cesarean either. I’d rather die and then they can take the baby. It is that bad and I am furious with everyone I talked to beforehand that just said c-sections were no big deal. You know you develop adhesions that cause pelvic pain the rest of your life? You can never undo a c-section. Your body will never be the same again. No one tells you that either. My body knew my son wouldn’t live- I wish I would have left nature alone and let him go in peace and die within me. That was no way for him to die and this was no way for me to spend the past 15 weeks. Watch “Pregnant in America” and “The Business of Being Born”. We’ve all been sold a giant lie that these things are ok. Birth is beautiful until it’s messed with.

By: Jilliansmommy

Jilliansmommy — Sun, 23 May 2010 20:20:23 +0000

i can totally relate to your story. my daughter just turned one, and while i am so thankful to have a happy, healthy baby girl, i just wish i didn’t let myself be talked into a c section so quickly. i was 5 days past my due date when my c sec was scheduled. i started getting contractions the morning of my scheduled c section. can’t help but think that my daughter could have been born naturally if i waited. c section was scheduled because i was past my due date and they expected my daughter to be big…no other reason. baby was not in distress.

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