Comments on: Coping with miscarriage II http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/16/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=coping-with-miscarriage-ii Vaginal birth after cesarean? Don't freak, know the facts. Mon, 21 May 2012 06:08:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jen Kamel http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/16/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-75369 Jen Kamel Wed, 11 Apr 2012 18:33:23 +0000 http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/17/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/#comment-75369 Alisia, Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm so sorry for everything you have lost. Warmly, Jen Alisia,

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m so sorry for everything you have lost.

Warmly,

Jen

]]> By: Alisia http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/16/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-75227 Alisia Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:18:38 +0000 http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/17/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/#comment-75227 I am so sadend to hear these stories. I truely understand the pain you all are going through. I got pregnant last may (2011) and was so excited. I was extremely sick right out of the gate. After my first ultra sound I KNEW something was wrong. The tech told me how big the baby was and I knew the baby was too small for how far along i was. I persisted that something was wrong and no one really listened until we had some blood tests come back that showed abnormalities. I had an amnio done and everything. The short of it all at at 6 months into my pregnancy I had a horrible night. Went to my midwives the next day. She checked for the heart beat and couldnt find one. We knew she (yes it was a girl) was really small so we decided to go for an emergency ultra sound. Thats where they confirmed that she had infact passed that night. I was induced that night at the hospital and the next afternoon I gave birth to a still born, less than 1 pound little girl..Lindsay. Its been 6 months now and I have to say it has not gotten easier. I dont cry every waking hour like I used to but I carry the pain with me every day. The sight of other little girls that should have been her age as well make me teary eyed. I am a new born photographer and let me tell you the first few I did was extremely hard, but I think about why I wanted a child in the first place, because they make me happy!....People say things happen for a reason and I know that she had issues but still...why? why me? I am a healthy 29 year old, very active, eats right and takes care of myself...so why did I have to go through this? Know one can give me that answer but what I do know is that I had a lot of support...even from my husband who longs for his little girl every day! Keep your head up and remember...you got pregnant, so it can happen again. Here is hoping you have been able to find some peace and that one day you WILL hold a baby of your own. I am so sadend to hear these stories. I truely understand the pain you all are going through. I got pregnant last may (2011) and was so excited. I was extremely sick right out of the gate. After my first ultra sound I KNEW something was wrong. The tech told me how big the baby was and I knew the baby was too small for how far along i was. I persisted that something was wrong and no one really listened until we had some blood tests come back that showed abnormalities. I had an amnio done and everything. The short of it all at at 6 months into my pregnancy I had a horrible night. Went to my midwives the next day. She checked for the heart beat and couldnt find one. We knew she (yes it was a girl) was really small so we decided to go for an emergency ultra sound. Thats where they confirmed that she had infact passed that night. I was induced that night at the hospital and the next afternoon I gave birth to a still born, less than 1 pound little girl..Lindsay. Its been 6 months now and I have to say it has not gotten easier. I dont cry every waking hour like I used to but I carry the pain with me every day. The sight of other little girls that should have been her age as well make me teary eyed. I am a new born photographer and let me tell you the first few I did was extremely hard, but I think about why I wanted a child in the first place, because they make me happy!….People say things happen for a reason and I know that she had issues but still…why? why me? I am a healthy 29 year old, very active, eats right and takes care of myself…so why did I have to go through this? Know one can give me that answer but what I do know is that I had a lot of support…even from my husband who longs for his little girl every day! Keep your head up and remember…you got pregnant, so it can happen again.
Here is hoping you have been able to find some peace and that one day you WILL hold a baby of your own.

]]> By: jay http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/16/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-3031 jay Mon, 17 Aug 2009 18:29:31 +0000 http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/17/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/#comment-3031 Ironically me and my girlfriend had two miscarriages back to back. I'm hurting ans she continues to push me away from her and consistently hints at ending the relationship. She told me recently she hated me and insist that she wasted a year and 2months for nothing. Talking about it is irrelevant because she one-sided and is only concerned about her pain and her and not mine. I've put my feelings to the back burner to always be there for her however I do not feel that it's worth it at this point to continue our relationship with her. I will mourn my own way and support her from a distant. You can comfort someone who doesn't want you around or even near her...God bless all the women out there who allows their man to share the pain with them... Ironically me and my girlfriend had two miscarriages back to back. I’m hurting ans she continues to push me away from her and consistently hints at ending the relationship. She told me recently she hated me and insist that she wasted a year and 2months for nothing. Talking about it is irrelevant because she one-sided and is only concerned about her pain and her and not mine. I’ve put my feelings to the back burner to always be there for her however I do not feel that it’s worth it at this point to continue our relationship with her. I will mourn my own way and support her from a distant. You can comfort someone who doesn’t want you around or even near her…God bless all the women out there who allows their man to share the pain with them…

]]> By: Laureen http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/16/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-757 Laureen Sat, 17 Jan 2009 16:31:51 +0000 http://vbacfacts.com/2009/01/17/coping-with-miscarriage-ii/#comment-757 Hey Candace... You never get over it. You may move past it, but you never get over it. I have three living children, and had a miscarriage in between each of them. And I still think of both of those as children, and I still think about their expected birthdays. My husband would tell you that they were hard on him. Men just don't handle them like we do. After I had my first miscarriage, I thought I was broken. But discovered, as Jen mentioned, that most women have had them. You are so not alone. I know it's hard. I'm thinking good thoughts for you. Hey Candace…

You never get over it. You may move past it, but you never get over it. I have three living children, and had a miscarriage in between each of them. And I still think of both of those as children, and I still think about their expected birthdays.

My husband would tell you that they were hard on him. Men just don’t handle them like we do.

After I had my first miscarriage, I thought I was broken. But discovered, as Jen mentioned, that most women have had them. You are so not alone.

I know it’s hard. I’m thinking good thoughts for you.

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