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Speaker, 2015 Rally To Improve Birth - Los Angeles @ Third Street Promenade | Santa Monica | California | United States
I’m so excited to speak at this event! Will you be there? What should our VBAC rally signs say? ______________________ Los Angeles Birth Community is bringing it to Santa Monica for the national Improving Birth[...]

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Resources for processing traumatic births and losses

Sad Teenage Girl

A dear woman contacted me.  15 months after her cesarean, it was still hard for her to read my posts without crying.  This simply broke my heart.  She is not alone.  There are many women who carry the grief and pain of their traumatic vaginal or cesarean births or the loss of their baby.  Every. Day.

So I asked on Facebook for resources for women who are in the midst of the processing and grieving.  Here is the list.  If you know of more, whether they are on-line or in person groups, for free or a fee, please leave a […]

Emotional healing from traumatic births

Sad Teenage Girl

So many women are carrying the emotional baggage of their traumatic births. This unprocessed anger and disappointment can negatively impact how future births unfold. Women often feel betrayed and lied to by the medical establishment while simultaneously wondering if their bodies are broken and incapable of birth. […]

Coping with miscarriage II

Of all the people coming to this site, it is the women who come searching for information on miscarriage and grief that just really break my heart.  There are so many of us, so I wanted to bring attention to what Candice wrote as well as my response.

Candice left this comment:

My husband and I tried to conceive for over two years. We were so excited when we found out on Oct. 21st that I was pregnant. It was amazing how I could have felt so connected so quickly. Obviously, as soon as we found out we told all […]

Coping with Miscarriage

I had completely forgotten that I wrote this piece until a month ago.

I was with a dear friend who is getting married and we were visiting with her mom.  We were talking about birth and her mom asked me, "You had a miscarriage, didn’t you?"

The question kind of caught me off guard.  Funny how even though it had been 18 months, the pain was still faintly there.  During that time, I had my sweet HBAC baby, but when I think of that miscarriage… it still makes me sad. 

My friend’s mom, a psychologist, knowing that I have […]