
My birth story was traumatic: What do I tell my kids?
We recently shared the birth story of someone who planned a VBAC, labored, but had a repeat cesarean over on Instagram and received this comment from a reader:
“Feeling all of this ❤️ I wonder if you’ve done a post or have helpful tips on how to talk about their birth after baby gets old enough to want to learn about it.
My first was a c-section, second was a hbac [home birth after cesarean] and my first was old enough to experience it.
She understands birth as vaginal and still doesn’t know about the traumatic birth she had.
Do you have some advice or can you point to some on how we can talk about both births with confidence and share that both are ok?
(Personally I’m still working through the trauma and am trying to be in a good space to tell her about it in a positive way. It was basically the worst experience of my life and it was traumatic for her too.)”
This is something all too common…
You wanted the story of your children’s birth to be one they loved to hear.
Now you’re left wondering: what am I going to say one day when they ask?
- What’s age appropriate disclosure?
- How to tell a story that’s both truthful and kind
- How to talk about the birth when it’s still too raw
Join Trauma Therapist Krysta Dancy and VBAC Facts® Founder Jen Kamel as we discuss the sticky truths of dealing with a hard birth story in a loving way for both you and your child.
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Jen Kamel
Jen Kamel is the CEO and Founder of VBAC Facts® whose mission is to increase access to vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC). VBAC Facts® works to achieve this mission through their educational courses for parents, online membership for professionals, continuing education trainings, and consulting services. As an internationally recognized consumer advocate, Jen speaks at conferences across the world, presents Grand Rounds at hospitals, advises on midwifery laws and rules that limit VBAC access, educates legislators and policy makers, and serves as an expert witness and consultant in legal proceedings. VBAC Facts® envisions a time when every pregnant person seeking VBAC has access to unbiased information, respectful providers, and community support so they can plan the birth of their choosing in the setting they desire.

Jen Kamel
Jen Kamel is the CEO and Founder of VBAC Facts® whose mission is to increase access to vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC). VBAC Facts® works to achieve this mission through their educational courses for parents, online membership for professionals, continuing education trainings, and consulting services. As an internationally recognized consumer advocate, Jen speaks at conferences across the world, presents Grand Rounds at hospitals, advises on midwifery laws and rules that limit VBAC access, educates legislators and policy makers, and serves as an expert witness and consultant in legal proceedings. VBAC Facts® envisions a time when every pregnant person seeking VBAC has access to unbiased information, respectful providers, and community support so they can plan the birth of their choosing in the setting they desire.
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